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Dating After Divorce: Things To Think About Regarding Dating After Divorce

By Karl Augustine

moving-forward-and-dating-after-divorce (1)Dating after divorce is a much debated topic due to the psychological and emotional impact it can have on people. Dating after divorce can be complex, too often divorcees don’t consider the ramifications of dating after divorce before they jump into it with both feet!

If you’re going to start dating again after you’ve gotten a divorce, there’s quite few things that you should consider beforehand…here’s a partial list you might want to think about:

Dating after divorce consideration 1: Make sure that you are aware of your own level of self-confidence.

divorce_editorial_thumbIf are considering dating after divorce, be certain that you are either confident in yourself as a person or are at least aware of your level of self-confidence so you can plan accordingly. Self-confidence will help you to remain lucid when you’re dating after divorce. Choosing who to date and why you want to date them can be a major turning point in your emotional health after a divorce. If you’re self-confident, chances are good that you’ll be able to handle being rejected or ignored if you’re just beginning a relationship.

If you’re truly self-confident, you’ll be able to have the right mind set before you begin dating after divorce and any potential let down will be foreseen by you and “non-damaging” to your emotional state. Self confidence is perhaps the most important thing to think about from an emotional health perspective regarding dating after divorce.

Dating after divorce consideration 2: How quickly should you date after getting a divorce?

dating-after-divorceFortunately, this is really only a question that you can answer, assuming your divorce is truly over with and you don’t have a custody battle that’s ongoing, a dispute about assets or finances, or any other type of lingering agreement that needs to be reached that could be impaired by dating. If you have children, this is a question of their strength and the strength of your relationship with them.

If you don’t have children, this decision is entirely up to you regarding how you’ll approach dating after divorce. Ask yourself how ready you really are to date again…depending on what you want out of dating after divorce, i.e., what the end result is to any solid dating relationship, will drive how quickly you date again. If you’re simply lonely and think you need to date again just for the sake of dating or to test how you’ll respond to dating, you may want to do a serious self evaluation regarding your confidence level. You will know when you’re ready again to begin dating after divorce – everyone’s different. Know yourself first, then make the decision.

Dating after divorce consideration 3: Should I date while going through a divorce?

dating-after-divorce (1)Most coaches, attorneys, and counselors will tell you that dating while going through a divorce is never a good thing to do from a psychological perspective and a legal perspective. While this article isn’t a form of legal advice, common sense tells you that if you’re in any type of battle regarding marital assets or custody, avoid any dating.

From an emotional health perspective, dating while going through a divorce can be damaging to you and your “soon to be” ex-spouse. You’ll be much more mature after the divorce if you self evaluate to figure out how you contributed to the events that lead to your divorce. Handling yourself in a caring and sturdy emotional manner during a divorce can be an extremely difficult thing to do…but, it is a terrific growing and learning process. Make use of it! Grow as a person and learn about yourself, and you’ll be far better off after the divorce is final.

Dating after divorce consideration 4: Consider that you may have a tendency to date someone completely opposite from your spouse and realize that this isn’t healthy.

o-BAD-DATE-facebookDating after divorce is tricky! Be smart, realize that the pain you may have felt at the hands of your spouse can naturally lead you to want to date someone who is an opposite of your ex. It is a reasonable and natural reaction because you might want to avoid having any pain whatsoever or you may not want to deal with anyone who might remind you of your ex-spouse.

If you find yourself looking for someone who is your ex’s opposite when dating after divorce, take a deep breath and ask yourself if this tactic is truly healthy for you. If you answer ‘yes’, then you’re saying that there was nothing good about your spouse and that you’re a poor decision maker or else you would have never gotten married to your ex in the first place!

Instead, think of the things you’d like to see in someone that would make you want to date them and look at the person in and of themselves only. If you see something in them that reminds you of your ex-spouse, decide whether that something is a good trait or an undesirable trait. Only then can you decide about that person in positive fashion. Your spouse has or had some good traits, define what they are and don’t be afraid to see those traits in someone that you are dating after divorce.

Dating after divorce consideration 5: Do what you need to in order to have a positive outlook on your future after your divorce.

o-DATING-facebookWhen thinking about dating after divorce, and all the possible fires that can go with it, keep in mind that you need to feel good about yourself to be lucid. A positive outlook on life is key to everything else, and all the future decisions that you will make after your divorce. Go and do fun things with friends and get out! You should certainly keep your guard up but don’t be overly critical of everything or you may get so paralyzed be your analysis that you never actually “get in the game.” Your frame of mind on any relationship – friend or not – after divorce is key factor to your happiness. Keeping a clear head and heart is a healthy thing. If you keep these considerations in mind, you’ll have a much better time when dating after divorce.

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Speed Dating

By Isabella Snow

speed-dating (2)Speed dating! I’m rarely impressed when it comes to dating agencies, dating games or matchmaking systems, but I have to say I’m impressed with the concept behind Speed Dating and whoever thought it up was a clever little sod. Traditional dating is so last century and today’s single men and women don’t want to waste time on dates that aren’t going to go anywhere — they’re uncomfortable, they’re dull and they are awkward as anything. If you’re looking to meet new singles, look into speed dating!

What is speed dating?

speeddateSpeed dating is, essentially, a speedy matchmaking system. Originally, it was created to help Jewish singles meet other Jewish singles, but nowadays speeding dating is designed to attract and appeal to any religion and any walk of life.


How does speed dating work?

speed-dating-3 (1)Singles register with a speed dating organization and then attend the speed dating event. Typically, women sit at the same table throughout the event, and the men play musical chairs for 3 minutes at a time (sometimes up to 8 minutes, depending on the organization). You make small talk and then jot down on your card some indication of whether or not you’d be interested in seeing them again. At the end of the night, the organizers check all the cards and if the people you expressed interest in reciprocated on their own cards, the staff will pass your details to one another. If not, your information doesn’t get shared.

What types of speedating groups are there?

icebreaker_new_grad_students_webIn my own city, I’ve seen all sorts of speed dating groups. I’ve seen Sugar Daddy (young women and older, wealthy men specifically seeking each other out); Sugar Mama (young men seeking older women); traditional groups of singles in similar age groups and more. You can find speed dating agencies who offer 3 minute sessions or go for something longer.

How much does speed dating cost?

money-bagGenerally speaking, the speed dating events I’ve seen advertised are relatively inexpensive. If you need to cancel, however, be aware of the policies beforehand, as some companies have a no refund policy after a certain date.

Benefits of speedating:

  It’s said that men and women size each other up within 30 seconds of seeing each other. If this is true, spending more than 3 minutes with someone you’re not keen on would be a major waste of time. Speed dating solves that issue without hurting anyone’s feelings.

 You know the people you’re chatting to are there to meet potential partners, as opposed to just meeting people in a bar who might just be there for quick fling.

 You can meet loads of people in one go!

 You know immediately whether or not the physical attraction is there, whereas online dating makes it impossible to know this until a good deal more time has elapsed.


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What to Expect at a Speed Dating Event

SPEED-DATING-3So you are scheduled for a speed dating event. Here’s some advice on how to get the most out of the night. I like to refer to this as speed dating etiquette. Because I host and plan the events I have first hand knowledge on what works and what doesn’t. Here is what I’ve found:


–    Arrive 10-15 mins early to give yourself time for registration, food, drinks and to scope out the event.

–   I suggest using an alias when giving your name at a speed dating event. To protect your privacy. Be sure to include your alias and real name on the registration forms. Let the host know to use your alias. When you are ready, you can tell your matches your real name.

speed-dating-event-1–  Invite a friend of the opposite sex. Many of my guest do this and have a lot of fun. This way at some point during the event, you can re-group, relax, and share progress. Sometimes they end up being a mutual match!

–  Make it a Ladies or Guys night out! Most of the times host offer groups discounts. It will definitely make for a conversation worth having. And by inviting all same sex friends, you never “waste dates” with someone you already know.

speed-dating (1)–  Speed dating events are meant to be fun and social. If you are not a social person you may feel uncomfortable…and thus look uncomfortable. You should at least be comfy with meeting several people you don’t know and starting a conversation with them. Most events will have some kind of conversation starters or speed dating questions available.

–  Assume you’ll be the one getting the conversation going– ask engaging questions. Try to stay away from asking questions that can be simply answered with “yes” or “no”. Questions like: “What makes you tick and why?” or “If you were stranded on an island what 3 things would you be caught likely be caught with” something that can spiral into a conversation about other things.

seo-speed-date–  Be a great listener and be genuine. Don’t tell lies, people tend to remember the first conversation you have for a very long time. Take notes if you need to (after they leave) to help you with your decision making.

–  Make sure your appearance is going to be one of the first things your dates notice. I usually tell guest to dress smart casual, unless otherwise noted.

–  Try not to eat any onions, garlic, or any other foods that could make your breath not so fresh, if you know what I mean. Poor hygiene all together is a total turnoff. Come fresh, clean and cut, for best results. Having mints, breath sweetener, or gum is not a bad idea. Just don’t do it in front of a date, it could be a turn off.

Fox's "Take Me Out" Speed Dating Event–  Usually more women than men show up. So guys, come on out– If there aren’t enough men attending, beautiful single ladies are sometimes turned away or the event may be cancelled/ rescheduled. Many of the women are single by choice and ready to meet someone who’s not afraid of someone unique and outgoing.

–  Be genuine and don’t try to be something or someone you are not. Bragging is not to cool– most people who brag don’t end up getting a match. Stay away from conversations that revolve around income, religion, and politics. I’ve seen things get ugly. If someone brings up one of those topics, change the subject for anticipation to discuss it at a later time.

–  It’s speed dating, but take your time and really use the most of your few minutes to get your dates vibe. And remember, first impressions are everything! Make it a good one, and don’t ignore red flags!

–  Have fun, be optimistic, and daring. Got get em’!



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How to Plan a Speed Dating Event

purple-lab-worlds-largest-speed-dating-event1Planning a speed dating event let you play Cupid to dozens of people at the same time. Follow these steps to create an evening of lightening-fast dates.

Before the Day of the Event
speed-dating1. Book a venue. Museums, restaurants, banquet halls and clubs are popular places to hold speed dating events. Plan to provide refreshments at the venue such as bottled water, soda and light snacks. Do not serve alcohol.

love_shuffle_SMALL2. Advertise your event in newspapers and in local radio and television commercials. Post signs and put fliers in bars, cafes, clubs and restaurants.
3. Collect personal information from those who sign up, including full name, phone number, address and email address. You’ll use the information later to notify them of matches.

4. Make name tags using a marker for each person who participates. Write only the person’s first name. Include the first letter of the last name if there is more than one person with the same first name.

5. Create 2 sets of cards, one set with all the females’ first names on it and the other set with all the males’ first names. If participants share a first name, add the first letter of those individuals’ last names to each card. Include check boxes before each person’s name.

On the Day of the Event
Fan Choice speed dating_tcm25-194101. Set up tables with 2 chairs each at the venue on the day of the event. Place the bell, whistle or alarm in a location where all participants can hear it.

2. Meet and greet participants at the door to the venue to ensure they feel comfortable and welcome. Give each person his name tag, card and pen or pencil.

3. Explain the rules of the event to the group, making sure that everyone understands how the evening works.

4. Read through each of the cards once the event has ended, noting where matches occur.

event_1441238225. Call or email those individuals who selected potential matches to give them the information they need to establish contact.

By eHow Relationships & Family Editor, eHow Contributor


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How to Determine a Speed Dating Rotation Sequence

adult-dating-merchant-accountSpeed dating is the latest singles craze that has swept the nation and the world. It’s a great way for singles to get more out of dating in a shorter amount of time. Planning a speed-dating event requires some preparation ahead of time, including determining the sequence in which couples will meet. There are several easy-to-use methods for determining the dating rotation sequence.

SpeedDating1. Count the number of male and female daters who will participate. This can be controlled by having a preregistration and having a set amount of daters allowed.

2. Write out questions for the daters to fill out ahead of time if you plan to match them based on common interests before the event. If couples will not be matched, then ensure there are equal numbers of men and women attending.

3. Set the time limit for the date. If matching couples, then set the limit based on the amount of dates; for example, eight dates of eight minutes each is 64 minutes. If having all daters meet, then set the limit based on the amount of participants; for example, 20 males and 20 females each with a five minute date is 100 minutes.

speed-dating-24. Create a dating card for participants indicating the names of the individuals they’ll meet and their table numbers. Have half the daters moving and the other half staying at a table.

5. Sound a loud timer to indicate when time is up and stick to the allotted times.

By Andre Zollars, eHow Contributor


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Lesson 1

Online-Dating-ServicesFirst of all, I’ve used the tips below for finding dates on with excellent results. These are of my personal experience, and I’m sure they can’t be wrong as I’ve had massive amount of dates (1 every 2 days), and a long list of “sex buddies” after my 8 months experience in . So if that’s what you’re looking for, proceed to read on:

12022012143057It’s important to take a look at statistics of people who use online dating, to better get a feel for what you should expect. When it comes to men who use online dating sites they rank physical appearance at the top of their list.

main.seoul_.sunoo__0Women, on the other hand, claim they are more attracted to a man with an excellent personality above the man’s appearance. Most online dating sites have more single women as members, than men. However, women get more messages per day than men.

Women are looking for men with a great sense of humor. Men, on the other hand, are looking for women younger than themselves.

Chicago-DatingHowever, most women are looking for older men than themselves. Except for middle-aged women; they usually are interested in younger men. Most people who use online dating sites claim to be just looking for no-strings relationships. However, there are a lot who are looking for serious relationships.

Now that you know a little more about the statistics involved with members at the online dating sites, it’s time to talk about how you can set yourself apart and land the ideal person for your ideal relationship.

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Romanian Dating Services: Things to Keep in Mind

using-a-romanian-dating-agency_bigBasically, a lot of men sign up for dating services made available over the internet. And naturally, they are in search of not only women who can get themselves hooked up in dating and courtship eventually but most of all, they do prefer those individuals who are currently and a hundred percent vacant to become their brides. That is what dating services are all about—finding the perfectly matched to-be couples. Now there are some things and considerations of course when you get yourself engaged in Romanian dating services. Like any other typical women, these Romanians ought to be respected. They don’t make themselves accessible online to be treated rudely. They have their distinct characteristics and one man has to unearth the secrets on how the Romanian women can be made theirs.

Romania_Friend_FinderAs is common with a relationship that is not only fulfilling and rewarding, being involved with a Romanian woman, only if you are with your perfect match, is likewise an experience that would surely bring you into the comfort zone of a relationship level that is the envy of all. Men often die to know the top secrets that would make Romanian women fall for them.

eastern-european-women-romanian-model-madalina-diana-gheneaAs an advice, be choosy when it comes to searching for a Romanian woman partner. Find the best. Look at the profiles of your choices carefully. You would not want anything else but the best partner for you to live with. The truth is, Romanian women hardly put their trust on other people. So this is the homework that you would have to work on. Why should you be spending your precious time in sticking with a woman who is not your match? Better yet, take a look at the pointers to keep in mind as you work out in making a Romanian woman fall for you.

Here are the top tricks to keep in mind when you aim towards attracting a Romanian woman from a dating service.

32_mediumFirst, Romanian women prefer intelligent talks with their men. If you can inject humor most of the times and keep up with interesting topics for conversation, the better. Intelligent men are for them sexy and interesting. How would you do it? Act as someone who is a good listener. Talk about her work, her hobbies, interests, and be very keen with such details.

Second, they value the importance of your word. Don’t make promises which you may be unable to fulfill.

3139733-2Third, send them SMS messages or write them notes that would definitely stir up their emotions. Use words that would surely melt their hearts. This would ensure that your relationship is attaining a firm foundation.

Fourth, spice up your talks by using humors, anecdotes, and the likes. Flirting is allowed too. Romanian women often remember those men who are able to paint a smile on their faces.

And finally, be real. Don’t pretend. Show them who you really are. Don’t complicate things by boiling up fictitious details about yourself. If you mean to keep them, be genuine.

Take note that these women also wish to find their Mr. Perfect from the Romanian dating services. Prove them that you are whom they are looking for. Be the partner who would make them feel loved and respected. Romanian women can be all too picky as well.


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What are Phone Dating Services?

Phone Dating ServicesPhone dating services have taken the world by storm. With the invention of mobile phones, the popularity of these dating companies has vastly grown over a few years. If you search the web, you can see mobile phone companies that offer this type of service, not only in the US but also in other parts of the world like Europe, Australia and as far as Asia. While more people have relied on these services for their dating needs, some skeptics ask: do they really work?

Sydney-Phone-Dating-Is-FunThese dating services are provided by mobile phone companies. A user is first made to register using a chat name. Then he makes his own profile. Your profile is then sent to a database which any registered member can access. By sending some keywords to a number, the mobile phone company sends you a list of names that fall within the criterion that you want. You can then send messages to these chat names, although you do not know their mobile numbers yet. After a few exchanges, you may want to give your mobile number and decide to meet in person. These dealings are now outside the scope of the services that the phone company provides.

russian-ladies-russian-woman-banner-phone-serviceTelephone dating services have come a long way since its introduction a decade ago. Back then, you’d see their ads on TV or the yellow pages, indicating the number to call. You will then call and leave a phone message. Others whom you may be interested with are going to listen to your message by dialing the same voice mailbox. If interested, he or she would also leave a message for you to retrieve. This is so much like an email correspondence, except that you get to hear the voice this time. After a couple of exchanges, you will then decide if you’re going to meet and actually date.

video-chat3This has led to the development of video dating services, where video messages are made instead of ordinary phone messages. Through this, you are able to see the person instead of just hearing the voice.

Adult-Phone-Fun-SydneyPhone dating is actually different from phone sex companies. For the latter, you’d be asked to dial a certain 1-900 number, and female operators are on standby to give you a good time by engaging in some sexy conversation. Here, there is no actual dating involved.

single-women-using-myaka-serviceBecause of the popularity of these dating services, you can now start your own phone dating company by buying the software and some equipment at a low cost. But before you join any of these companies, know your options well. Look for companies which have been tried and proven to provide quality service.

pleasent talkThings may come and go, but phone dating services are sure to stay. It is a convenient and fast way to meet new people. But these services can only go as far as searching for somebody who might be fit for you. If you decide to move your relationship to the next level, then you have to work on it. Or it could be that you click really well in so far as phone conversations or texting, but not in real life. In other words, phone dating can be a great way to start. But if you want a lasting relationship with someone, you would have to meet and be with each other in the real world.


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Local Internet Dating Services: An Unforgettable Experience

internet-dating2The local internet dating services have risen with a boom basically because of the number of websites that allow various personalities to meet their dream man or woman. These websites then offer a lot of features that ensure thrilling and unforgettable scenarios of matchmaking, courtship, dating, romance, and love. More so, these continually popularizing dating services are the most sure way of winning friendship and tracking down a soul mate.

img2People from all walks of life learn how to access the internet. Thus, the local internet dating services are meant for them. There are several individuals who can’t just find the right words to express their feelings towards another person. Some men keep their emotions within themselves and find it too tedious to reach out to their prospect partners. The reason behind this is one’s fear of rejection. This is then undoubtedly something that is innate in every human being.

Girls using laptop in bedroomAmong the coolest advantages of these dating services which exist none other than online is the lessening of getting judged, being hurt, and getting rejected. Your identity would never be divulged so whether you make use of your genuine personal data or not, it would not matter. After all, plenty of the internet users, especially those who log on to the local internet dating services websites, likewise employ fake identities. You would certainly find it hard to find out who’s real and who’s not.

How does the local internet dating services promise meet ups?

new-web-cam2Profiles of both the men and women members are kept in the data bank of a dating services website. The members of the site can access these profiles so that they would be able to find their match. The profiles include interesting details about the member like one’s hobbies, ambition, career, and anything under the sun that points out to the personality of the person.

As it goes, the website requires membership fees. Only the members can enjoy the features that come along with the packages and surprises that are made available by the website administrators. Some free trial memberships are then offered in order to entice one to sign up as one regular member. Monthly fees are then to be collected. Other surprising features are promo membership fees and match making schemes. For someone who is desperately in search of a partner, this can be a wonderful opportunity to be enjoyed.

What consequences come along with the local internet dating services?

Attractive young woman using laptop computerFirst, dating has been made easier. In real life, it’s often too hard to choose a prospect partner in life. There are times when you don’t find anyone around you attractive. But with the local internet dating services, you’ll get a line of choices. Plus, you can automatically take a glimpse of their background. Another thing is that, you can conduct your search comfortably. With a reliable internet connection, you can find your perfect match even when you’re just at home.

Second, you get the chance to mingle with people of different races, religion, ethnic groups, values, and norms. If there’s no internet, there is not a single possibility of getting to know these kinds of individuals. Interracial dating as well as interracial marriage can be all too possible too.

The local internet dating services can be accessed easily. With just a few clicks in your computer, you’ll be on your way to meeting that special someone whom you’ll most probably treasure for life.


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Free Single Dating Services: Some Tips for You

image01Single? Worry no more! Single dating services are all over the internet these days. Several websites cater to the needs of the people who are searching for their possible partners. It is true that man cannot afford to leave all by himself. There is always that feeling of emptiness. Furthermore, such emptiness can only be cured by having someone at your side.

single-profesional-women-datingFree single dating services are just around the corner. You just need to employ the right effort to search for the websites. For these free memberships, you are to make your personal profile. This profile would be displayed for viewing by the rest of the members in the dating services package. Usually, the free access to the single dating services comes for some limited time. You would be able to enjoy an unlimited access to the website if you fully sign up and pay for the membership fee. A subscription rate is set by the website administrator. If your lucky stars are on your side, you may even spot a single dating services all for free!

peru-dating-servicesAmong the mouth-watering features that you can enjoy from a single dating service are free creation and upload of profiles, photos, mobile and chat alerts, star searching and partner matching. These singles dating services ensure that you have a good deal of options. People from various communities, regions, races, and the likes are invited to become members. Who knows, you may even land at an interracial dating or marriage in due time?

Some Tips for You Singles

signup_boxHaving been a single for quite some time may have already erased the courage you once had in you. But do not worry because here are some worthy tips to follow and keep in mind as you enroll yourself in the singles dating services.

dating-sitesRead helpful articles about online dating. There is lots of literature that touch on this matter. You can gain helpful insights from them and be aware of some end results too.

Know your goal. Are you up for fun and excitement? Or are you after a long term relationship?

Take note of precautionary measures. Use your common sense. Know your limits or else you’ll just end up in misery.

Study on how to create an attractive and interesting personal profile. Likewise, upload photos that would make you look gorgeous. No one would take interest on someone who’s not even physically pleasing.

s girl01Be patient yet persistent. Finding a partner can’t be realized overtime. You never know what tomorrow has in store for you.

Bear in mind that there are other options for you. You can always meet singles from your church activities, work environment, and community. Don’t rely your fate to online dating.

Have fun. Treat finding a date online as something of a relaxing activity instead as a homework.

Other sources of finding a partner are events which are meant to be hosted for the benefit of the singles. Your community, church, and office may sponsor an event that would gather up all singles. Take part in them as well. Another is the so-called speed dating. The process is like that of a job interview. In no time at all, you can get the results.

Free single dating services are accessible if you think that it’s the best way for you to spot your dream partner. Just take note of the above mentioned tips so that you can be assured that your venture can definitely paint a smile onto your face.



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